The right time to get married is when you are mentally ready to make a difference in your life. So try as much as possible to make sure that the person you are going to be in this bond with is more likely to make a good change in your life.
Marriage and family is a social thing that requires not only mental preparation but also physical preparation. Psychiatrist Ahmed Helal said, “It is not the age that is important for marriage, it is the physical and mental preparation that is more important.
Because it is not possible to swear that since today is 18 years 11 months 29 days, tomorrow will be the age of your marriage. Science says that at the age of 18 people are physically and mentally ready. So I consider this age to be the minimum age for marriage. ‘
It has been said before that if you get married at a young age, unintended events like divorce can happen, but a recent study has shown that even if you get married at an early age, the risk of divorce increases. According to the study, the number of divorces in the United States is increasing by 5 percent every year due to marriage after 32 years.
However, previous studies have shown that those who marry late have a much lower divorce rate. “It’s a big change,” said Nicholas Wolfinger, a researcher at the University of Utah in the United States. “As far as I know, the risk of divorce due to marriage between the ages of 30 and over has increased significantly in recent times,” Nicholas added.
In a study, Nicholas said, “People who get married 32 years ago have a dramatic reduction in the risk of divorce by at least 11 per cent each year.” And the ego in them doesn’t work as much as it does after 32 years. So if you get married after a long age, there is a risk that the understanding between the couple will be less or the tendency to adapt will decrease. And this is why the divorce rate is higher in older marriages
First of all, the idea that I will live like an ungrateful person even after marriage should be thrown away. As I said, you have to be mentally prepared for change. Needless to say, the task is not easy (especially for boys) but it is necessary to do, it can also be said to be necessary. Otherwise a turbulent situation will soon arise and the matter may go to the point of separation.
Second, if you already have a relationship with your partner, you need to be mentally prepared to rediscover it. No matter how long a relationship lasts, marriage takes time to get to know people. So it is good to think that you are going to get acquainted with some of his annoying habits or dispositions (which is called ‘error’). Because in that case the errors are less likely to become unbearable. Needless to say, it applies equally even if you get married.
Third, you need to be aware that you are not perfect. So that after marriage, if any defect is found in the partner (which must be read) does not become extra defensive. “You’re perfect just the way you are” – these are words of love and inexperience. The truth is, no one in this world is perfect, and no adult really thinks you are perfect. So self-love is fine, but it doesn’t have to be stuck in it. You have to restrain yourself. Because it is also a kind of preparation for change.
As long as this realization lasts, it is to be hoped that one’s job / income and marriage age will be the same. It is better to enjoy life ungrateful than before.